Title Tuesday: The ADHD Effect

 Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions, news, cartoons, and reviews.

We are officially in to month TWO of 2020. How is that possible already? For this month the book reviews here on The Forgive Former Feminist will focus on Marriage. If you want to see the full list of books I have reviewed on marriage check out my goodreads page!

Today we are taking a look at The ADHD Effect: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps by Melissa Orlov. While the title of this book doesn't immediately make one think of marriage, if you are married to a person dealing with untreated ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) this book can be quite a resource. 

When Brian and I got married neither of us knew he had ADHD, so we didn't have to tools necessary to adequately deal with the blessings and challenges that come with ADHD. We spent a lot of time and energy battling over things that we didn't realize were neurological, not behavior based. When I found this book it was like a breath of fresh air. 

This is the first ADHD marriage book I read that didn't make the spouse responsible for the person with ADHD. The ADHD Effect also does a good job of treating the ADHD person with respect rather than making it seem like they are somehow broken or less-than because they are not nuerotypical. Orlov gives many recommendations for helping to let go of unreasonable expectations and helping your ADHD spouse to feel valued.  

A bonus about this book is the fact that a lot of what Orlov said also helped me relate better to my child with ADHD as well!

Overall, I give The ADHD Effect: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps by Melissa Orlov a solid 4 stars. If you are dealing with difficulties in your marriage because of untreated ADHD this is a great resource.