I meet
with a group of young women once a week or so. We hang out, watch movies, talk
and eat a LOT of food. I usually show up early to help with preparing the food.
Yesterday’s visit was a bit different. I showed up at my normal early time and
found out someone decided that we would order a pizza. So, with nothing to
prepare I got out my paper and started working on some writing. The girl who
was hosting the event (let’s call her Sarah) asked what I was working on. I
told her about this blog and showed her the notes I was working on. Sarah had a
lot of questions. This group of young women is comprised of young professionals
and graduate students, all of whom credit their success to the work of
feminism. Many of her questions have been asked by other people via email in
the past. I am going to use today’s post to answer the most common questions I
get asked about my thoughts on Feminism.
So
why did I title my blog The Forgiven Former Feminist?
Because I am a former feminist and I have been forgiven for my sins. My blog title gets a lot of questions; it is a great conversation starter.
Why am I against feminism?
Let me say that I am not against it, but rather I am pro-biblical womanhood. If feminism were simply a matter of women's suffrage then yes, I would be a feminist. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines feminism as the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes or the organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests. It is the “organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests” portion that I have an issue with. The original idea behind “feminism” was to achieve equal pay for equal work and to gain the right to vote. The 19th amendment passed by Congress June 4, 1919, and ratified on August 18, 1920, guarantees American women the right to vote. The Equal Pay Act of 1963 guarantees equal pay for equal work.
So we have equal pay and we have the right to vote… then
things started to change. Over time feminism has picked up other issues that I
do not agree with. Women’s Rights means a lot more now than just equal pay and
voting. Now “Women’s Rights” encompasses gay-rights, abortion, and gender inequality
issues. Upon searching my Bible and talking with my advisers and team members I
realized that I cannot be a “feminist”.
Do you think men are more important that women in the Christian
faith?
No. Men
are not more important than women. It also must be said that women are not more
important that men. We are all children of God.
I do
believe that men and women
are inherently different. My feminist friends really don’t like it when I say
that, but it is true. Men and women are not the same. We were designed for
different functions were designed to glorify the kingdom of God in different
ways; that's not to say that one is inferior to the other. It is simply fact.
Feminism teaches that Christianity punishes women for the
fall of man by making us less than men. God is not punishing women for the fall
of men by making us to be helpmeets. God gave Eve to Adam as a helpmeet before
the fall. From the beginning (before sin ever came into the picture!) woman was
designed to walk beside man.
You write a lot about being a homemaker; don’t you have any
bigger dreams?
I have had
several very devout feminist friends tell me that I am throwing away everything
I have worked for by wanting to work for my (eventual) family rather than
outside the home. My
response is that if feminism is truly about empowering women to decide for
themselves, shouldn’t I be allowed to decide to be a homemaker?
I do
write about being a homemaker, because I believe that is what God made me to
do. Yes, right now I am unmarried, but that doesn’t make me any less of a
homemaker. I manage my home now just like I will if I am married. I love to
learn. Being a homemaker is not synonymous with being uneducated or lacking in
ambition. I have huge dreams shaped with a biblical worldview focused on making
disciples for the kingdom of God.
I think for now this is where I will end this post. As I write more on the subject I will link back to this post. You can also check out the Feminism 101 tab at the top of the page.
We seem to have a lot in common. I share your opinion on feminism in most respects, I call myself a semi-feminist - I'm feminist in regards to equal pay and the right to vote, and in regards to women's equal right to own property, etc. but I'm not on board with abortion or the male-bashing so common of many strident feminists today. In fact, recent discoveries in biology and neurology reveal even more that God created us to fill uniquely special gender roles, with God given strengths in certain areas that complement those of our opposite gender and allow us to create families and build communities, and ultimately whole societies. Each is valuable. I'm also a hopeful future homemaker and stay at home mom. for now I'm a young professional (with a masters degree), saving a next egg and paying off debt to be as ready as I can be if the right guy ever comes along to make that dream a reality. I look forward to more of your posts!
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ReplyDeleteErica
www.ericastartwalking.com
Unfortunately equal pay or equal work is still not a reality in most professions. I was told by my first boss that he'd never pay a female doctor the same as a male doctor.
ReplyDeleteI stumbled across your blog...its really encouraging to hear your thoughts. Keep at it, its good stuff, be blessed!
ReplyDeleteMorgan, I, too, enjoy reading your thoughts! Keep writing and blessing others! Thank you for sharing this over at Deep Roots At Home :)
ReplyDeleteHey, Morgan, I ended up here from Internet Cafe Devotions. How are you?
ReplyDeleteWell, much of what you talk about is the same that i believe. But I have some doubts: you are not implying that EVERY woman was called to become a wife, are you? As you said, being a homemaker does not necessarily means being married.
Just to tell you: having a family is not a big dream, it is a HUGE dream. To keep and nourish a relationship and to have and raise kids is as difficult as being a CEO. So, don't let anyone tell you the contrary.
For me, I have dreams outside the house as much as inside it. I haven't gotten married yet either, but I hope I do someday.
Thanks for your insights. Food for thought.
Cheers from Brazil,
Priscilla